I am not going to lie, getting on the mat, or in the ring and sparring another human being can be scary business. There have been several times over the past 25-years, that it took everything I had inside to not back out of a roll or sparring match against an opponent, that I perceived could easily beat me.
But I stepped up and did it anyway.
The question is: why?
In part I recognised my own enemies inside.
As Steven Pressfield notes in......
Is there real self-defence training out there? I guess this really depends on how you define ‘self-defence'. I wrote about this in my article, Real Self Defence Doesn’t Sell and I discussed it further in the subsequent interview that accompanied that article.
If one looks at Youtube there is a lot of information out there being passed off as self-defence training. But if you look closely, often (not always) what you see is more about winning a ‘street fight’ than self-preservation. In other words......
I have been teaching ‘self-defence’ in some shape or form for the past two and a half decades. Most prominently as the hand to hand combat instructor for my unit in the Military, and then later as a martial arts coach.
What has stood out for me over the years is that people say they want to learn how to defend themselves, but they actually really don’t. The kind of self-defence training people want, is the ‘100% guarantee to work or you get your money back’ kind.......
In my article entitled The Truth Be Told, I outlined some key considerations when it comes to self-preservation. In that article I mentioned that often in assaults the thing that gets people into trouble is the whole Machismo, ego attitude of not losing face. Let me be clear, that if you find yourself faced by an aggressive opponent, and there is an opportunity to exit the scene safely, but you chose to stay there, or chose to want to get into a fight, then it is no......